Thursday, December 27, 2012

How Christmas Unites Us


Time for the annual "Christmas unites us" post. What words of wisdom or words of semi-sarcasm will I speak this year?

Uhh...

....hmm

well...

Apparently after a few moments of reflection, none.

What I do have is profound gratitude for a wonderful Christmas season. I'm thankful for the advent celebrations. I'm thankful for the utterly tacky multicolored, migraine-induing blinking Christmas lights we put on our utterly homely office Christmas tree (when in Asia...). I'm thankful for the InterCon Christmas fair where over 40 vendors of artisan and fair trade crafts brought in a major cash haul from the Phnom Penh expat community, myself included. I'm thankful for the candy canes which can be purchased at Lucky Supermarket, an added Christmas cheer to a miserably hot climate. I'm thankful for Christmas carols and frosted sugar cookies at my work Christmas party. I am thankful for the crazy gift exchange at my partner organization.

Most of all, I'm thankful for my friends. They have shared their Christmas joy with me. They have shared their parties. They have let me enjoy their Christmas trees (I'm so lazy). They have made a family for me while my own is far away. I'm grateful for the people who are so skilled at making Christmas a time where people are united and I aspire to be like them.

I will remember Christmas 2012 as a fine season filled with ever so much food, ever so many friends, and ever so many tacky Christmas decorations popping up throughout this Buddhist country.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

This Post is for the Fowlers

There have been many influential people who has passed through my life in the last 26 months, but few have been as influential as my colleagues Ryan and Daphne.

One of the more pleasant discoveries upon arrival in is that with few exceptions, the vast majority of the team had arrived in-country within a 10-month time frame. This meant that all of our three-year terms had substantial overlap which for me, has been a meaningful joy-filled experience. I have valued and enjoyed everyone for so many different reasons. So with Ryan and Daphne's departure, the social fabric of the team will soon unravel, and the dominoes of departures will soon begin to fall. Life as I know it has begun to change.

But a brief interlude for nostalgia's sake. I learned a lot from Ryan and Daphne. I learned about hospitality as they are some of the most gracious people I've ever met. I was always delighted to visit their country-side posting of Prey Veng where you were wonderfully fed, and probably had the chance to do some form of crafts. I learned a lot about linking faith with our practice, and thinking reflectively about out impact on the areas where we're serving. I learned about graciousness in transitions. I got to befriend Maya, a super cute baby that I miss already. Finally, I will always remember the night bus from Luang Prabang to Vientiane were we were out cold for most the night on motion sickness/sleeping meds, then wandered around Vientiane like the walking dead trying to find coffee and new shoes for Daphne. Moments like these become adventures and memories you keep.

Who knows where we shall meet again, but the world is small. I'm grateful we had the opportunity to cross paths, and I look forward to seeing how Maya grows up.

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

How to visit Chiang Mai



My reason for choosing a Chiang Mai holiday were very unscientific. I read an article in an in-flight magazine. I heard there were mountains. I love Thai food. I live very close, relatively speaking. Thus, an irrational and instant attachment was formed to the idea. I must travel to Chiang Mai.

I choose one of the most inexpensive methods to achieve my goal; sale tickets on a budget airline to Bangkok, followed by an overnight train to Chiang Mai. Overnight is a stretch...more like overnight and half a day, but you arrive, tired and hungry, but alive and well and happy not to repeat the trip back home for a good five days.

Chiang Mai holidays occurred with my dear friend Kelly, Assuie and a fellow Phnom Penher. We are friends because she loves adventures like myself. Kelly was later joined by her cousin Dave. As a trio, we set out on our adventures, constantly whining paradoxically that nothing is as good as in Phnom Penh, and everything is so much better that Phnom Penh. We maintain that Thai tuk tuks are terrible. On this point, Cambodia excels. 

In short, while it’s still Asia, I loved Chiang Mai. It was the perfect respite after a few too many difficult weeks at work. It’s a place you go to relax, to shop, to enjoy a slightly cooler climate, to eat, and to have an adventure.

Mountains: Chiang Mai did not disappoint on its main draw. There are hills and they are green and lush. Coming from flat arid Cambodia, it was soul-reviving. One day we even ventured up the mountains and enjoyed the views and the breezes, praising the preservation of nature and wishing to never return home.

Markets: Chiang Mai has plenty of shopping! There are night markets, Saturday markets, Sunday markets and then the shops. Everything comes alive at night in a colorfully and lively display of life. Many of the products and crafts we saw were uniquely different to others spotted around Southeast Asia, and we enjoyed the creations from a vibrant arts scene. We stayed out very late at markets, a treat when everything shuts in Cambodia at 7pm.

Food: Thai food is amazing. I went to Thailand for my favorite food in the world, Thai green curry. A lasting impression of Chiang Mai was the food scene as well as how cheap it is! There is an abundance of tasty and tantalizing street food. We also did the rounds of Subway and Starbucks, because we could. We went hours in cute cafes with our books with our smoothies and coffees.

Temples: Chiang Mai is famous for its beautiful temples with the intricate gold eves like gingerbread houses, brass bells, and gold domes and umbrellas. We made it one day to the famous Doi Suthup temple located slightly outside town in the trees and hills. Artistically, Thai temples have done very well.

Motos: A new favorite activity when traveling is to rent our own mode of transport. Kels and I rented motos one day and drove around down and through the hills. I do begrudge Kelly for making me do a u-turn on a highway, and for driving on that highway in the first place. At least I can now say I have driven a moto on a highway. We also spent a long time convincing the rental people that “I drive one just like this in Cambodia! I know how to drive!” A short road test eventually proved our point and we were vindicated. 

Tesco: Tesco is basically Wal-Mart. This is the reason we ended up on a Thai highway, to find Tesco. Wandering through a warehouse like store, spotlessly clean, almost every product you could want…a small reminder what America and Australia are like...imagine our jaws mopping the floor in overwhelming awe.

Lanterns: I chose to visit Chiang Mai late November because it fell over a three-day Cambodian holiday granting the maximum time off. This amazingly coincided with the Thai “Festival of Lights.” Paper lanterns are lit with candles and floated into the night sky by the thousands with accompanying fireworks. It was magical and something I know which I’ll never forget. We even launched some of our own.  

Tigers: Kelly wanted to pet a tiger, and because I couldn’t think of a good reason why not to (I’ve done way worse), I did too. And so we went to pet massive tigers. They were quiet and didn’t mind us, though clearly we were extremely careful not to upset thing.

Drunk French tourists: On the train back, we ventured into the dining car where we encountered multiple drunk French tourist dancing down the middle of the car to the Macarena and Mambo #5 which was blaring loud enough to wake the entire countryside and so loud we could barely place our drink orders. That was worth every cent of the train fare. 

Thursday, December 6, 2012

How to Plan a Conference (Peace Conference Round 1)

[Some of my favorite from the conference ]
One of my November highlights was a conference that I was involved in planning. Last year, we received special funding for a three-year conference series on peace mainstreaming. Not everyone or every organization has the good fortune of being directly involved in peacebuilding in their work. However, we can all use these values is our everyday work and lives. And so, mid-November, we kicked off our first in the series of three. We had two main goals, help out partners build a small knowledge of peace, and secondly to better know each other. 

It was a huge success. Cambodians are huge fans of going away for conferences, and so in keeping with this exception we went to Kep, a sleepy little seaside town, famous for its tasty seafood and laid-back vibe. We invited all our 14 partners to sent two representatives, bringing in a total of around 30 participants. We had an oddly diverse group of individuals representing the oddest collection of sectors: rural agriculture  education, youth sports, handicrafts, and peace. We also had two Buddhist monks from a new education partner, a first for us in recent years. It was very rewarding to watch the participants become more comfortable with each other over the 3 days, even though they were coming from such very different work sectors.

Something which greatly excited me was that the entire event was entirely in the Khmer language. I don't speak Khmer, so I didn't understand the content, but it's not about me. So often, in Cambodia, training and workshops are held in English, which limits who can attend and the depth of the content covered. From the beginning, we wanted this to be in Khmer so participants (particularly those from the rural provinces) could feel comfortable speaking their native language and build relationships with representatives from other Cambodian organizations.

My partner Peace Bridges came off as the superstar. The director Mony (who I have the pleasure of working with) facilitated. I was immensely proud of this, and honored that he saw it as way to give back. Over the last 10 years, Mony has developed into an extremely skilled 
facilitator. We covered responses to conflict, human needs theory, and nonviolent communication which was new to most participants and they loved the games and interactive learning experience. 

Some highlights of the conference included:

  • Eating plenty of seafood, especially crab. (Before returning, we stopped at the local crab market so people could purchase crab to bring back to their families. This only took two hours, but the fish goes from the ocean, cooked, and in a cooler box within that time frame.)
  • Playing games on the beach and swimming in the ocean. We played one game just for fun and one team-building game for which we had a massive crowd of spectators watching us. This was followed by ocean swimming.
  • Breakfast and tea time by the ocean every morning. We were very fortunate to find a lovely hotel right on the ocean willing to accommodate our noise.
You know a conference has been successful when the participants later “friend” each other on Facebook.  It’s the way we do business these days. I look forwards to the second conference this upcoming summer. Because when people are meeting and talking and sharing stories, sometimes it honestly feels like being here, and those hours and hours of frustrating reporting might actually be worth it.